The DPs. Disney Princesses. Darling Princesses. Damn Princesses. I haven’t decided yet.
When I was growing up we had Cinderella. Blonde. That’s the life, right? Lives in a house. There are family issues, but she knows what’s expected of her. Her nemeses are bumbling and mean, but not particularly eeeevil. She gets an awesome makeover, complete with killer shoes, sweet chariot ride to the ball and meets the prince.
I can’t say I ever wanted to be Cinderella or Snow White. Those were the main options. Cut to 2014 where if I did want to be a Disney Princess, there are now a good number of them to choose from. We’re going to have to remove some crystals from my tiara because I can’t name them all. I can see many of them in my head, but I haven’t been keeping up with their names, let alone their princely rescuers. Well, now the day has come where I can’t be wishy washy about it any longer. Mini G has been invited to her 3rd birthday party. That’s a pretty good average, considering she’s not even 3, we don’t socialize regularly with any mommy/daughter/sons and she’s only been in preschool for about 8 months. Of course parties have themes and costumes are encouraged for this one. One of those princesses is on the invitation and a live princess will be making an appearance at the party.
G Money/George & I have always agreed to go light on anything that involves heavy marketing. As many of you may have discovered (coughs), once you actually have a child, your feelings change. Don’t get me wrong. I like Disneyland. I visited as a child a number of times. However, when I went to Paris, that is the last place I considered visiting. Hell, it wasn’t even on the list. I’m in Europe and I’m going to go to Disney? Now that I have a child, perhaps I’d voulez vous. I took Spanish, so excusez-moi if I didn’t get that one correct.
I got side tracked. To be clear, I’m confirming that I’m cool on Disney and Disneyland. American culture. I accept it. Love it. Mini G will absolutely visit Disneyland, multiple times. Dressing up like a princess? Mixed feelings. Sometimes vehemently against. Sometimes ambivalent. I need to make a choice, though, because costumes are encouraged at the birthday party. The birthday girl carries a bag with Disney Princesses all over it. You know she’ll be in full Disney regalia for her day. I’ll bet she’s seen Frozen. Multiple times. In our house, we’ve subscribed to the limit-tech-and-tv philosophy, so Mini G has never seen a full movie. She knows Mickey Mouse. We go to the Clubhouse, get our Mystery Mousekatools on and we hot dog dance. We have a Mickey. She’s seen the entire Disney Jr. lineup. We own a Doc McStuffins puzzle set. I just haven’t gotten into other toys or the whole dressup aspect of it. So we do start for the party? Cue costumes.
Ariel – I just can’t with the bra on this costume. I think she’s my least favorite princess because of the suggestiveness of her body (pay close attention next time) & costume. Couldn’t she have been in a bustier and not just a bra? Kids are watching this and it’s being ingrained in their brains.
Elsa – $139.99!! Strike while the iron’s hot, I guess. I don’t think every Disney Princess hits it out of the park, but these have and people are making money off of it. I haven’t seen it. I think some of the Disney music is brilliant, but I wouldn’t put Let It Go in my top 10.
Sophia the First – She’s spunky. Looks like a regular kid and she is. She’s not a glam queen. I like her. Mini G seems to take or leave her. Mostly leave her as the attention is only held for a limited time and this isn’t one of the powerful ones. I can totally see Mini in this costume. But do I want to?
I’m a mom and I have a six-year-old, and when my daughter was a year and a half, my mom was trying to give her Disney princess stuff and I was really opposed to it, because I thought the messaging was very negative in the setup for little girls. It’s always some poor village girl, and something happens to her, and then poof, this guy shows up and they move to the castle and everything is great.
I just really didn’t want my daughter to get into that. I mean so much to the point that I was looking at a Waldorf or city and country type gender-free school because I just thought that it was negative imaging. By the time my daughter was two, she knew every Disney princess, every name, even though we didn’t have it in our house and I just totally succumbed to the fact that Disney had gotten my kid and there was nothing I could do, so I mind as well join them and celebrate that aspect of imagination and femininity with her. (Kelly Cutrone)
I don’t worry about this stuff all the time and I’m not giving Disney Princesses a bad rap. This is just one of many choices I’ll be facing as Mini G grows up. I’ve already seen what’s coming next. Sandals w/a heel for 5 year olds, padded bras for 9 year olds. I have major concerns about children being sexualized, and in ways far more common, frequent and criminal than when I was little. I also have concerns about children learning/worrying about their sex appeal far too early these days. Maybe it’s a big yoke to throw on myself, but I believe that all my small decisions will add up to the way Mini chooses to behave when those big, peer-pressure filled decisions come around. I’m with Kelly Cutrone on celebrating femininity and imagination. I might just choose to do it most often in a way that Mini G & I construct together. Of course, I might just buy the costume.
ETA: This is what she picked out to wear. She loved it! It’s an Old Navy top and this butterfly tutu set on Amazon. I bought it in Oct 2013, she wore it out twice for Halloween 2013 and then in Apr 2014. Other than that she’s only worn it indoors. It’s done very well and is still going strong as of Oct 2014, so a full year!
If you have a daughter/daughters, what’s your Disney Princess policy? Even if you don’t have daughters/nieces/female littles in your life, what do you think? About all or any of this?
p.s. Once again I’ll confirm that I haven’t forgotten this series. Let’s Talk topics are always in my head. My thoughts always feel so jumbled, I’m not sure I’ll kick off the discussion in a coherent way. lol
ETA: Visit Louise’s good discussion about the lack of comfortable women’s clothing, on Ingredients of Style.