, I forgot about the fact that I’d left the house w/the carseat in and stroller in the car. When I got a text from my husband stating these facts five minutes before he was to pick her up from school, I immediately thought of how to damage control the situation. But not before I threw some a couple foul words around “I told him we should’ve just gotten another carseat!” I did not mention that and texted back that he could call the school and have her stay later in the day, I’d pick her up on my way home. By that time, the situation was handled. George was already on his way to…get this…walk and pick up Mini G. How revolutionary! Walking. With my mind in a panic, I just hadn’t thought of him doing that. Duh.
I’ve left for very long work days with meals handled, diapers set out, bottles made and so on. I’ve only had one overnite trip. I don’t expect that he’s going to mess things up. My intent for helping has been to make his load lighter, particularly when Mini G was smaller. In recent weeks, I’ve started letting go of trying to do it all. Which is why I probably forgot the seat in the car. It had crossed my mind, but I just didn’t go to the car to get it out at that moment. Unless you have a truly incapable spouse, it’s good to remember that they will probably figure things out on their own if we just let them. The key is to be ok with it not being done the way we would do it. There’s so much pressure to keep things consistent for children, but I don’t agree that’s the best thing all the time. Life throws curveballs, so they need to learn — along the way — to be flexible. Children often usually are.
Lena is an attorney, currently working away from home 3-5 days/week. I should specify that she spends the nite away from home 3-5 days/week, specifically for work. She travels by train to the client site, but will sometimes drive (4 hrs one way) depending on time constraints and weather. The client site and her family are in the same time zone, which is good. However, with a husband and two kids (approx ages 9, 14) + work as a lawyer, she’s finding it difficult to feel balanced. Here are the questions she poses to you all:
* How can I make work travel easier on my family? – About.com articles are so generic, but I found this question very interesting: Do you wear yourself out on work travel, to prove to yourself that it was worth being away, and return with no energy for family?
* How do you find the balance between family, work + travel? – These people are traveling for a living, so that’s quite a bit different than corporate work. However, #1 is key. Particularly the part about clearing mental space of ppl who don’t need to live there.
* How to make business travel manageable – By Penelope Trunk. #2 is critical.