Can I get you some tea? This turned out to be a long one.
So what happened after my $300 meltdown? The jist is that I made my first purchase from Kate Spade and it was a final sale item. I know, first time purchase. Big ticket item for something that’s final sale. What can I say, I was cray cray. The blog disappearing was just the final straw in a couple of weeks that just weren’t going my way. Well, the faux pullover arrived and I like it quite a bit. I wish I could recap the conversation we had about it in my household. It began with laughter. Uh, not from me.
Size S – I first tried it on with nothing on under and it felt good. The weight is nice, not at all flimsy and it felt cozy, as I expected. It feels more like outwear than a top.The large roll neck makes my head look smaller, esp w/the wack! haircut I recently received. We are not trying to do Beetlejuice. So I put the perfect shirt in leoaprd (6) on under to frame my face & hair a bit. FYI, there is a Crewlet version, which I haven’t seen in-person, but just so you know. I don’t know that I would wear this top under or another button down, but I liked the idea of a top on under, so something fitted could work if not a button down. I felt it could also be worn alone. It doesn’t really make sense to have a heavy faux fur and exposed forearms, but in California we see heavy sweatshirts w/shorts & flip flops in cool weather. At least I did in school, so the opposites are a fashion ok in our climate. (beat) I guess.
I keep wearing my Old Navy maternity skinnies even though they don’t fit anymore. Perhaps the baggy waist gives me hope. *lol* Clearly this topper needs an arm party of bracelets. Hoop earrings would also be cute. I wish I had better photos, outdoor ones specifically, but this is what time permitted. Cut off heads can be boring, but this is how we’ve been rolling on the blog for 3.5 years now.
Let’s talk about construction. I think I was expecting horizontal pieces of fur sewn together, given the striped look it has. I think they just dyed the stripes onto the faux fur for some added texture. They did a really good job. One thing I didn’t expect was that it was shiny. I actually didn’t even notice it, but my in-house peanut gallery did. I asked if it looks like some activists might try to tag me with spray paint at Christmastime and the response? They might. I’ll take that as this topper might look real. I don’t have any knowledge about fur, so I can’t discuss whether it looks real or not. I just assume most people I run into are wearing faux fur. I think you can tell when a piece is real fur. I’ll remind you that this piece had an original retail of $850 or so. Too high a price to have an acetate lining. What do you think? It feels ok on, but the exterior told me it really wishes it were paired with a silk lining. The bow on the back is cute, of course. However, it’s grosgrain and matte. I wouldn’t say it feels cheap, exactly. I just believe a silk, black ribbon would’ve been a nicer touch. It arrived in a brown box, and was folded into a clear plastic bag. I didn’t expect it to be boxed & bowed within the box, but given their marketing presentation what I received came with zilch for fanfare. I assume this is because it was on the final sale promo. I’m going to guess that if it’s a regular purchase, the packaging has a little more branding on it. Oh…there was a little fanfare. They included a 20% off coupon inside for retail store use, so that was nice. Thanks, KS!
Dear 6pm and Zappos.
I’m pretty sure I could shoot better product shots than what you have going on. What gives. If you’re going to have the employees model the clothes, at least provide them with some Smashbox finishing powder to help that shine.
To be perfectly candid, I’m going thru something right now w/myself and blogs haven’t been helping. I know that we only see and read what people choose to share. Our interpretations can largely be projections. I’ll tell you that my life certain isn’t tied in a neat bow. When I look at blogs, I sometimes come away feeling less adequate. Like I’m not doing enough in my life. Surely I can have a clean house, well cared for husband and baby, cook, work, blog, see family and friends, and diy wonderful crafty goodies for my home & to give as gifts. Right??? I know we can do everything, just not all at one time. I’m ok w/that, but I’m human and will admit that I sometimes allow myself to compare….knowing, I’m not seeing the whole picture whether it’s on a blog or irl. Usually I am really good about admiring what I see in others and mimicking what I like. I.e., hey it’s cool to pattern mix cuz I saw it on a real person and it works. I don’t like it when I stop feeling inspired and start feeling…I dunno. How I feel sometimes right now. Like I can’t quite get it together and I see all these other people who can. Again, I know what we see is what people choose to share.
About the top…I’m happy that I ordered it. One things that concerns me is wearability. My husband said he can see me wearing it maybe 3 times max. Over the course of what time period, I don’t know. He said it would be great for shopping in New York. Usually I’m the one w/the probably-not-gonna-happen-soon fantasies. For years I have purchased clothes for events that manifest in my head, but never irl. I mean years of doing this. Of course when events have come up, do you think those dresses are ever appropriate? Of course they rarely are *lol* Some of the clothes I’m able to work into my life and some just hang lifeless in the closet, tags still on. I heard Tim Gunn say on Tim Gunn’s Guide to Style, can you wear that on a Tuesday? That show was like 4, 5 years ago and I still remember the simple idea when he said it. Finally… I’m really, really trying to purchase things that I can literally wear tomorrow. Without factoring in worry that other moms will think I am ruining things by “dressing up.” That’s a new issue I’m trying to ignore. I just need to worry about whether I can push the stroller in it if it’s a Mini G day or whether it functions for work. Also, do I feel good in it? The key is that it needs to function tomorrow. Not function because it’s a great price. Or be purchased because it might sell out. I do need a rotating wardrobe, but a good number of the pieces aren’t usable on a regular basis. I think they have their place, but I don’t need more of them.
I’m back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but sometimes I just don’t feel good mentally. I’m confident that I don’t have post partum depression. I had baby blues for sure, but ppd, no. I’m certain that my crappy haircut is playing a role in my mental scape right now. Thankfully I bumped into someone whose hair I love, so now I don’t feel stuck to go back to the same guy because he’s pretty good — but how good is chopping my hair off despite the pictures I showed him? I’m not sure where the disconnect happened between the pictures and description of my needs. I’ve gone to that guy about 6x. I was feeling like I have to go back to him because he took so long to find, but I can choose to try the new referral if I wish. Choices are usually always good to have.
Ummm…back to the top. I feel pretty good in many of my clothes. Like the boy shirt in silk crepe de chine…the striped one feels so great and I love wearing it. But when I’ll catch a glimpse in the mirror and the person that’s in my head is not what I see. Body image is something that’s always present, I suppose, and I don’t mean a gift. But now I feel like my hands have aged overnite and they’re dry all the time. The skin on my face looks dull and sallow. I’m sure that’s from a lack of sleep and I can tell I’m dehydrated. As I type this, I realize that the fab pregnancy hormones are gone, so that’s a factor. Of course I previously knew they were gone because I lost a lot of hair. Although I’m convinced that some of that hair ‘loss’ is from not combing my hair for a day or two. Only running my fingers thru it. So when I took a brush or comb to it, out 3 days worth of hair that would’ve come out. *lol* Regarding physical fitness, but no one is responsible but myself. As with many of us, time and energy play a part in whether I work out or not. If I did the ole work out and eat right, we know what would happen. I’d lose weight and feel great, mentally. Being small, I don’t have that far to go, scale wise. A 13 lb loss would be 10% of my body weight. I am trying to be kind to myself because that’s what I would tell someone else. Sure, I get a break for just having a baby 6 mo ago, but there are a few reasons I really need to get things in gear. Man, I am not talking about the Kate Spade top, am I? But I am, because I find that when I don’t feel so great about myself, I don’t wear certain things. I postpone wearing them. Waiting to look like what I feel is my absolute best.
I am all over the place. I always have Let’s Talk posts brewing in my mind and just have not put any up. This probably covers a few things that have floated thru my mind in recent months. Do you feel influenced by (your perception of) bloggers’ lives? Or perhaps you get out the meter stick to compare when thinking of someone in ‘your real life’? Are you considered ‘dressed up’ by your family, co-workers, peers, other moms…your significant other? If so, do their voices flash in your mind when you’re choosing your clothing? Do you dress to blend into your work or personal life or do you just wear whatever you feel like wearing? Esp those of you that love J Crew and are inspired by their catalogs and ruffles, sequins, lace, prints, brights, etc…
Or whatever else you want to talk about…
ETA: See also…Shop With M’s show me the mess post.
p.s. For the record, yes I’m totally aware there is a world of issues going on. Just remember you’re not visiting a news site. It’s a fashion blog.